How to Choose the Perfect Coach
A good coach brings out the best in you and helps you move forward with clarity and assurance. A good coach focuses on your strengths and guides you to
success. Are all coaches alike? Not a chance. Here are 10 tips for choosing the perfect coach for you:
1. Does this coach understand you? Do you like this coach? You should walk away from the initial conversation feeling comfortable and confident in this
coach's abilities. Do you feel safe in his/ her hands? If you have some hesitation about this coach's abilities, select someone else.
2. Does this coach have a set coaching process or are they simply winging it? Does this process make sense to you?
3. Does this coach ask you to journal? If so, does this coach read and respond to your journals? Journaling can drastically increase client results by
helping coaches identify your ideas and thinking patterns. Without a journal, coaches are functioning with only a limited source of information about you
and are working at a major disadvantage.
4. How reachable is this coach? How frequent are your coaching sessions? Can you get in touch in-between coaching sessions?
5. Does this coach have references? What kind of feedback are you hearing from past clients?
6. Does this coach dig deep and get to the base of your insecurities and struggles?
7. Is this coach naturally talented or just following a scripted manual? Even with a process in place, this coach should be able to customize coaching to
fit your needs.
8. What kind of experience does this coach have? Can this coach handle a broad range of clients and concerns? What results has this coach been able to help
other clients achieve?
9. Does this coach have personal experience to draw from? Does this coach have a track record of success in their own right?
10. Is this coach motivating, trusting and engaging? Will you enjoy spending time with this coach?
Before hiring a coach, make sure to take these 10 criteria into consideration. You'll be spending plenty of intimate time with your coach, so make certain
that you are working with someone that you enjoy being around. The relationship between you and your coach can be wonderful once you make the right choice,
and it can be one that lasts a lifetime.
Just as you choose your business partners with care, take your time and be selective when choosing a coach. Don't be afraid to look around and speak with
multiple coaches before making a decision.
Client Spotlight with Tammy
Frame of Mind Coaching
Today's Client Spotlight:
Tammy Jackson, MA., BCBA
Program Director, The Family and Community Ties Foster Care
10 weeks of 1-on-1 coaching with Master Coach Kim Ades
Why Tammy sought out coaching with Frame of Mind Coaching:
I had started a new position in a higher level of management and was struggling with the politics at work. I began looking for coaches online and I was
matched with five coaches, including Kim, on a coaching website. I began chatting with these coaches to see who was a good fit. Right off the bat, I
was resistant to having a coach because I didn't think anyone could point out certain aspects of myself that I had not already considered. With the
exception of Kim, there weren't any coaches who could teach me and create those "aha" moments for me. The first time I spoke with Kim, she nailed me.
From then I knew she was the right coach for me.
How did journaling affect your coaching experience?
Journaling was difficult for me, because I'm more of a talker than a writer. Even thought I don't like to journal, I found that my conversations with
Kim were more helpful because of the constant contact. It was useful when Kim would reflect on my journals and ask questions. I journal every so often
now as an outlet.
What Tammy Learned from Coaching:
-I have gained a lot of inner strength from coaching. I don't feel trapped in situations anymore, which is very empowering. I used to feel moments of
helplessness, but I've learned that I can accept a situation and turn it into what I want it to be. These days when I struggle, I am able to move
instead of staying stuck.
-What surprised me is that so much of my life is based on my perception of my circumstances. At my job, I discovered that it was my perception of the
situation that was causing me stress, not the situation itself. By paying attention to my thoughts and beliefs, I have seen a difference in every
aspect of my life.
-I recently lost my 15-year-old dog who was my heart and soul mate. I was able to generalize the skills that Kim helped me cultivate so what could
have been a long, sad state of affairs turned into beauty, acceptance and happiness. I have Kim to thank for that.
-I think everybody can use a skilled coach who is a good match for them, no matter where they are in life. Just remember - there's no easy part of
coaching. The harder you work, the greater the reward.
Have you ever messed up a presentation, speech or performance big time? Have you ever gone so off-track, that you shudder when you think back to the
Last weekend, a friend and I performed a song that did not go as planned.
We met up early the night of the show to rehearse, and it quickly became clear that neither of us were fully prepared.
"I'm not very good at remembering lyrics," my friend Josh warned me. "Don't worry," I responded. "You're a musical therapist. You do this for a living.
You'll be fine."
We practiced and practiced, looping our way through the lyrics of "Miss You" by Rolling Stones. We talk-sung our way through the song. We performed it
to a group of passersby on the street. We even acted out the lyrics, to help cement them in our minds.
Still, we were feeling shaky. Some of the verses just weren't sticking. "I've been stumbling on my feet, I've been shuffling through the street" always
turned into "I've been stumbling on the street, I've been shuffling on my feet." "You've been starring in my dreams" always became "You've
been staring in my dreams." You might say we had some pre-performance butterflies.
We began setting up in our designated performance area, and Josh mentioned: "Just a heads up - the plug on my amp might not work. You might need to get
off your chair in the middle of our song to jiggle it a little."
Uh okay. Great start.
The first half of the show began and we nervously continued talk-singing in the back and confidently reassuring ourselves, "We got this! Belt it! Own
it! Just give it all you've got."
Then it was our turn.
We began on track, feeling the excitement of the crowd and the blinding lights on our faces. Then the first of many things went wrong.
I felt someone tap me on the back and I turned to find the technician standing behind me. "Your mic's out. You're gonna have to share Josh's mic."
Okay, this was not as rehearsed.
I shuffled my chair over and furtively pulled the other mic stand towards the middle of our chairs.
From there, things just got wonkier.
Josh jumped into the chorus when we were beginning the third verse. From there, who knows what happened. We skipped to a line from the fourth verse,
then threw in a line from the second. Threw in some harmonizing. Threw in some ooohhhs. Threw in some ahhhhhs, some light playing and some clapping.
Before we knew it, it was all over. We glanced at each other uneasily, and I laughed under my breath, thinking nervously of the embarrassment we would have to endure.
What's funny is when we joined the crowd after our song, people began approaching us and saying, "You guys sounded great! You were amazing! Sweet cover
of the song!"
Nobody had noticed a single thing out of place.
Here's what I took away from the experience:
1. When it comes to presenting, things don't always go as planned.
2. Most of the time - you're the only one who notices.
3. Don't ignore your nerves. Learn to love them.
4. There is something very reassuring about knowing your next presentation can only get better.
Events Calendar for October/ November
Frame of Mind Coaching
12-1 pm EST
The Nancy Ferrari Show is a show that focuses on sharing what's right in the world. The show features expert guests
who make a difference within their passions and professions
and live an empowered life. Tune in on Nov 4 to hear Kim chat about thinking your way to success. The interview will be live at 12 pm EST, and
it will replay on Saturday, November 9th at 12 pm EST at www.W4CY.com
on the Intertainment Network.